Dear Abbess, Brothers, and Sisters,

Got a nice call from Prior Raymond the other day.  Part of the reason may be an effort to keep in touch with those of us who for various reasons aren’t able to attend convocations, part may be because he knows my wife is in a nursing home struggling with complications from Parkinson’s.  I’m struggling too, but it’s worse for her, of course.  

At any rate, it was good to hear our brother's voice and I appreciate the prayers and support.  In the course of the conversation, he asked if I was able to keep up with the offices and I was pleased to say that I usually was.  Everything I’ve read about caretaking says not to forget to take care of the caretaker.  I keep in touch with friends, I go to church, and usually say my offices four times a day.  If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, I heartily recommend all three.  It’s not being selfish, it’s helping you be a better caretaker.

 Prior Raymond said that when he was in a similar situation, and struggling on occasion to get all the offices in, Sr. Anna Grace advised him to re-read Chapter 36 of the Rule.  The first part of which says:

            ¹ Before all things, and above all things, special care must be taken of the sick, so that  they be served in very deed, as Christ himself, ² for he says, “I was sick, and you visited  me” (Matt 25:36), ³  and, “What you did to the least of these, you did for me” (Matt   25:40).

 If you are a caretaker, then, your first duty is to the one who is sick, but when you can, don’t forget to care for the caretaker as well and don’t give up on the offices when you are able to get to them.

Sorry if I'm preaching to the choir here.  And thanks again for your call Prior Raymond.

Br. Steven